I have always wondered. But never found a solution.
It almost always begins with differences. Initially I try to face it by putting up the differences, discussing them and trying to arrive at a consensus. Yes, I always do this, hoping that things don't get worse. I want to be in good terms, I don't want to hate anyone. What happens when there is no consensus? I analyse once again to see if I am doing something wrong. My ego says, no way, I am doing everything perfect. How can I do anything wrong at all? It is as clear as daylight that I am right. But I try again. I don't see anything wrong with me. .....This time it is no question of consensus. I will try to convince the other person about the wrong doings. Noo, it is not working. I still give peace a chance. This time, I just wait. I'll try to please the person, without making much compromises with myself, though. No good. It is still not working. Things are as usual. It looks like a change is not in sight in near future or even distant future. What do I do now? I can no longer bear it. Godddd!!! Please do something, things are getting bad. I have started hating this person. But I hate to hate someone. I hate hatred. I don't like it that way al all. You see, conflicts are no good for me either... I want things to run smooth, but there is only so much I can do. :-(
What if I was wrong? Time to think again. If I were really wrong and my mind scores over my ego, things have to take a new course. May be I should go ahead, say sorry and admit my wrong doing? Hmm, if my ego agrees with that, perfect! Things are back to normal quickly and everyone is happy. But my ego doesn't agree all the time. Then silently turn the tables into an agreement, and things are back to normal again, but a bit coldness remains, which will be washed away with time. But at the end, there is a broad smiley. And things are running smmoooth. :-)
What do I do in the former case? I don't know! I wish I did. I hope I find out.
